Client Success Stories
Real Men Experiencing Successful Recovery
Victor
Working with Jake changed the course of my life. Today, I’m approaching a full year of sobriety (one day at a time) and I can honestly say I wouldn’t be here without him.
Finding his program felt like an answer to prayers. Not just for guidance, but for someone who truly sees you. From day one, it became clear I hadn’t just signed up for coaching. I had found a brother, someone who listened without judgment, who gently called out what needed work, and who constantly pointed me toward self-compassion and purposeful growth.
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Jake has an incredible gift: he sees straight to the heart of the issue and knows how to speak truth in a way that empowers rather than shames. Every session left me feeling lighter, braver, and more hopeful.
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I wish every man who feels lost or stuck could experience what I did. Jake doesn’t just coach, he walks with you until you can walk on your own.
Michael
"I struggled for very many years with my addiction, but I have now been sober for six months. Over those many years, I made many attempts to overcome my addiction using only willpower, but those attempts all eventually resulted in relapse...Starting with my very first one-on-one meeting with him, Jake made me feel comfortable and at ease. With compassion, Jake helped me understand the roots of my addiction, and recognize that my addiction was actually a reflection of my core inner goodness. He provided tools and techniques that help one not only achieve and maintain sobriety, but to also become the best version of themselves. Jake also taught the important role that belief in a Higher Power can play in overcoming addiction, which strongly resonated with me."
"I’ve been to therapy before for my addiction and nothing came close to the level of intensive wrap around care that you get from Jake! I would strongly recommend!!"​
- Ben
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“When I first started meeting with Jake, I was in a dark place, feeling alone, betrayed, and unworthy. I didn’t think I deserved my family’s support. But as I continued our sessions, I began to see myself and my mistakes differently. With Jake’s guidance and tools, I managed to climb out of the hole I had dug for myself. He taught me strategies to develop new habits and thought patterns, helping me shift my perspective. Instead of dwelling on my flaws and mistakes, he showed me how to view them more positively. Having someone to talk to gave me the courage to share my addiction with my family and gain their support. Much of the happiness and fulfillment I experience now is thanks to Jake.”
Oliver
“Addicted to pornography and masturbation for close to 38 years, I have tried to stop multiple times. I looked at my support team - I had my wife, SA brothers, and a Sponsor, but something was missing. Then I heard one of Jake’s podcasts, and he spoke my language. Jake has helped me learn how to communicate with my wife, recognize and work on character defects, and forgive, accept, and love the different pieces of me. He also has a special talent for slipping little comments, suggestions, or advice towards the end of each one-on-one meeting; I’m calling them ‘Nuggets From Jake,’ and I look forward to them.”
Jeremy
Jake has given my recovery new life
- Marc
10 Quick Mental Techniques to Stop Porn Cravings
Fundamental Strategies for Porn Addiction Recovery
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Know how to beat porn cravings. Have 10 mental tools you can use at any moment.
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Prevent urges from hi-jacking your mind. Remain in the driver's seat and stay sober.
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​Get out of 'limbic thinking' (seek pleasure, avoid pain) and into 'prefrontal cortex thinking' (purpose, meaning, connection).
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Redirect your mind instead of fighting cravings. Learn how to break porn addiction by redirecting the mind when faced with unwanted thoughts.
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Turn triggering situations into growth experiences. Prevent escalation into slip/relapse.
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Reverse lust/fantasizing thoughts. Use thought-replacement strategies that rewire your brain & create new long-term habits.
"Having a porn addiction doesn't make you bad, immoral, or perverted. It just means you have some skills to discover. Practice them each day, and eventually porn addiction will be a distant memory."
"Before joining No More Desire, I tried to stop my porn addiction on my own, but I struggled to make real progress. I would stop for a few days but then get hooked again and relapse very quickly. Jake’s program was different. The design of the program makes it highly probable you will break the neurological addiction by doing the daily exercises. The gap between my relapses started widening, from days to weeks. Not only that, the grip of the addiction on me has gotten softer. I no longer feel weak. Jake was so helpful, especially during the hard times where I had to have hard conversations with my wife. I believed that my sexual impulses and their frequency were natural, and that surrendering to them was natural and was the only way to release them. Now, I know that good habits, good self understanding, and good thinking make me grounded and focused, and give me healthy, sexual power."
S. A.