Quit Porn Using IFS: A Powerful New Approach to Psychology & Addiction Recovery
- Jake Kastleman
- Nov 13, 2024
- 24 min read
Updated: Apr 23
What if your brain pushes you towards porn addiction because it’s trying to help you, not hurt you? What if you could quit porn using IFS, an approach that helps you effectively understand and speak with the part of your brain pushing you towards porn, and you could redirect it? What if you could work alongside that part to overcome porn addiction, rather than feeling exhausted trying to fight it all of the time?
Since the dawn of western psychology, we have believed in a “mono-mind”. Meaning you have one brain and one personality. Seems pretty obvious, right? This is an assumption we’ve made based on hundreds if not thousands of years of tradition.
But what if this is incorrect? What if there is a more effective way of viewing the mind that results in accelerated mental healing and repair?
Internal Family Systems, “Sub-personalities”, and Porn Addiction Recovery
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychological modality that was founded by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980’s. Over the 2010’s and 2020’s it has accelerated rapidly into the mainstream due to its extremely effective approach for helping clients and individuals with addiction and mental illness.
IFS denies the assumption of “mono-mind” (that we have one personality and one identity), and instead posits that our mind is made up of multiple "parts" or sub-personalities, all contributing to our psyche and individuality.
At first exposure, most people in western society react to this idea by saying something like, “You mean like schizophrenia or multiple personality disorder?” This initial reaction is 100% understandable, as we have been taught this our whole lives.
But again, what if that assumption is incorrect? What if we all have multiple sub-personalities that add up to our identity, and those with multiple personality disorder are just a more exaggerated version of that?
More importantly, what if seeing that we have a mind of multiplicity could actually open up some very powerful mental/emotional processing and enable us to stop watching porn faster?
Sound strange? Give me a minute to explain. By the end, I think you'll understand…
If I hold the belief of mono-mind and I act out with my porn addiction, I might say something to myself like, “What’s wrong with me? Why am I this way?”, or, “How can I keep doing this to myself? Am I insane?”
If, instead, I hold the belief that many parts make up my psyche, I may ask myself something more like this: “Why is this part of me doing this? What is its reason?” I may then be able to dialogue with this part and get some answers.
If I address an addiction this way, I just might start opening up to the possibility that I am not insane. Instead, there is simply a part of me that feels the need for this addiction, and I can get curious as to why that is and begin addressing it.
Again, this all may sound strange and even insane itself, but stay with me, I’ll explain more.
Getting Curious About Your Porn Addiction with IFS
Think back to a time when you relapsed with porn. What emotions did you experience? What internal dialogues did you participate in? What inner conflicts did you endure?
If you’re like the rest of us, it probably went something like this…
A craving for porn emerges. You experience lust and desire.
One part of you says, “You want to go watch that”, or, “What was that video that we didn’t see last time?”, or, “I probably have 30 minutes this evening if I get home a little early."
Then, another part of you says, “Don’t go do that! Don’t you remember what happened last time?”, or, “You idiot! Stop thinking about all of this. What’s wrong with you? Just forget about it and move on!”
These two parts begin fighting back and forth. Another part of you - a deeper part - begins to feel a rising sense of anxiety about this inner conflict, much the same way as a small child might feel afraid when mom and dad start to argue.
That small child within you feels powerless, unable to stop the fight. He's scared he isn’t strong enough to face the part of you that wants to view porn, but he also doesn’t like the mounting criticism from the other part that wants you to stop watching porn.
Confusion, hopelessness, and shame fill you. With two parts arguing for and against watching porn, and another part feeling ashamed and powerless about all of it, you give in.
The part that wanted you to watch porn has fulfilled its role. It fades into the background for a time.
The other part that wants you to stop watching porn is now battering you with judgment and criticisms. It is using intimidation and shaming tactics to convince you to never let this happen again: “Don’t you know what this does to your family?”, “I can’t believe you wasted time on this again!”, “This is the last time you are ever going to let this happen.”
Meanwhile, you feel a sense of dread that yet again you gave in, and that little child inside of you gets into the fetal position, feeling defeated and discouraged. All he really wants is to be a good person, and he doesn’t understand how he keeps doing this to himself over and over and over again.
Now that I’ve played this scenario out for you, does this sound like a singular mind? Or does it sound like an interaction between multiple parts?... Multiple sub-personalities that all have differing goals, desires, and roles?
If it is one mind, how can that mind possibly want all of this all at once? Or how can it act in ways directly contrary to what it knows is best for it?
There Are No Bad Parts of You
Whether the truth is that your mind is one singular personality, or it is instead made up of multiple sub-personalities is not the point.
What I really want to drive home here is whether processing your thoughts and emotions one way or the other is more effective.
That is the point.
IFS is gaining traction at an astounding rate across the globe, helping individuals with mental illnesses and addictions. The ability to observe your mind as a system of parts that are taking on different roles has been nothing short of revolutionary when it comes to working through addiction.
Core to the success of the Internal Family Systems model is the understanding that we have “no bad parts”, which is the title of one of Dr. Richard Schwartz’ most recent books.
Essentially, this means that every single part of you - from those that are playful or generous to those that are judgmental or even malicious - play a role that they see as necessary for the benefit of the whole (you).
While parts of you certainly may be misguided or acting in ways that are creating harm or destruction, they are doing their very best to show up how they can to keep you “safe”, fulfill your needs, or prevent further suffering.
When parts of you are healthy - not carrying around burdens and insecurities all of the time - they can actually become powerful assets and friends to you; parts that harmonize with your pure intentions and deepest desires to bless others and do good in the world.
Understanding Porn Addiction Using IFS
The approach we classically take to porn addiction (or any addiction) is to see the part of us that pushes us to act out as bad. We are taught to shun it, ignore it, and ultimately kill it. That is the goal most recovering addicts start with.
Internal Family Systems shares a different approach to porn addiction recovery.
Instead of seeing this part of you as bad, see it as a part of you doing its best to help you out. This doesn’t mean you need to give into it, justify it, or placate it. But instead listen to it, seek to understand it, get curious about it, and ask it what it is trying to do for you.
Why does this part of you want you to use porn as a means of coping with suffering? What feelings is it trying to numb? What is it afraid might happen if it did not use this protective strategy to guard against the suffering you’re experiencing under the surface?
If you can get some answers on this, perhaps you can dig down and get curious about what’s underneath the porn addiction. What insecurities or burdens are you carrying?
There’s nothing shameful about having insecurities. Everybody has them. Including you! And the more you deny or try to hide from them, the more power they will have over you. This is because parts that play protective roles (addictive parts, for instance) will lead the show all day long in order to keep you from feeling those insecurities.
Instead, you must go to your insecurities, care for them, and come to deeply understand and feel compassion for them. Then, the parts that have been playing protector will have less and less to protect, and they can instead do something more productive.
Quit Porn Using IFS
So, when a craving for porn comes up, don’t run from it, fight it, or give in to it. Instead, step back to observe this part of you that is feeding you the craving. Ask why it is there. What is it trying to do for you?
Realize that this part of you is doing its best to help you, and let it know that you understand it is showing up for you the best way it can.
As strange as it may sound, let it know you are grateful for its efforts, and that if it can give you a little space, you just might be able to take another route to work through the underlying insecurities you’re dealing with. Then, you can discover new solutions to handle internal suffering.
If you can practice this approach with porn cravings and challenging emotions each day, you can quit porn, with IFS as one of the most valuable mental/emotional tools in your porn recovery toolbelt.
If you want to stop watching porn for good, there is no other system designed like the No More Desire program. It is a program that is intensive, personalized, structured, and it helps you build a recovery mindset and lifestyle so that you can lose your desire for porn. It includes:
Daily Assessments that instill the mental habits of recovery, and give you insights into what cravings actually are, where they come from, and how to overcome them.
Structured Recovery Program with exercises to transform your mindset and lifestyle one step at a time.
Tailored Recovery Plan that you and I build out together, and which contains your personal answers to get rid of porn cravings. This will be the plan you’ll use every single day to stay sober for the rest of your life.
Weekly 1-on-1 Sessions with a coach who has proven professional experience helping men recover, as well as first-hand experience recovering from his own addiction.
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Episode 75 Transcription: Quit Porn Using IFS | A Powerful New Approach to Psychology & Addiction Recovery
Welcome to the show, my friend. My name is Jake Kastleman. I am so excited to be here with you today.
Today I'm going to teach you some concepts for how to work through porn addiction and even quit porn or overcome porn using some very powerful approaches and strategies in your mindset that I think are revolutionary. They're being used around the world and people are having amazing success using them, but they are also unknown to many people even though in the psychology field they're deeply well known by many people and being used right now today. But I'm amazed at the number of clients that I work with who are unaware of these tools and how they work and how we can introspect and speak with ourselves and use inner dialogue with ourselves in ways that are extremely effective and powerful.
And so to start off, I want to ask you a few questions to get you thinking in a new way about porn addiction, maybe a way that you've never thought of before. And if it's a way you have thought of, you're going to learn some new things in this podcast episode that you've probably never thought of or heard or that are going to be some amazing reminders for you. What if your brain pushes you towards porn addiction? What if it's pushing you towards it because it's actually trying to help you not to hurt you? What if you could quit porn using a psychological approach that reveals how to effectively speak with the part of your brain pushing you towards porn addiction? What if you could work alongside that part to overcome porn addiction rather than feeling exhausted trying to fight it all the time? And I'm going to give you the basics of how to do that today.
Since the dawn of western psychology, the very first thing that I have to say, we have believed in a mono-mind. And most people don't know that phrase, what that means. You might be able to break it down.
Mono-mind, one mind. That has been the assumption in western psychology. Meaning there's one brain, one personality, one individual, right? I have one brain.
I have one personality. I am my brain. My brain is me.
This is an assumption that we've made based on hundreds, if not perhaps thousands of years of tradition in thinking about the mind and conceiving it of it. But what if this is incorrect? And that might sound so strange, but you're going to learn more about that today. And a more important question, what if there is a more effective way of viewing your mind that results in accelerated mental healing and repair? We're going to talk about that.
Internal Family Systems, or IFS, is a new psychological modality that began development in the 1980s. It's founded by Dr. Richard Schwartz. And over the 2010s and then the 2020s so far, it has accelerated rapidly into the mainstream of the psychology field due to its extremely effective approach for helping clients and individuals with addiction and mental illness.
And there are many people using it on an individual basis because it's a very intuitive way of understanding our psychology. I think most people get it very quickly. And I'm able to use the basics of these kind of roles that go on in our mind when it comes to addiction to teach my clients how to process their addiction differently.
And to see what's actually going on behind the scenes, rather than fighting or fearing or coming up against these cravings and saying, ah, stop. I gotta distract myself. I gotta turn to something else.
I can't feel this way. I need to stop feeling this way. I am able to teach people how to have an inner dialogue with their mind that is compassionate.
It's caring. It's powerful. And it enables people to approach their cravings and their addiction cravings much, much differently.
And it's extremely exciting about how it's helping people with addiction across the world. IFS denies this assumption of mono-mind, that we have one personality or one identity. And instead, it posits that our mind is made up of sub-personalities or parts that make up our psyche and our individuality.
And at first exposure, and this is what I always get from people and clients when I explain this basic concept to them, most people, myself included, when I was introduced to this concept, most people in Western society react to this idea by saying something like, you mean like schizophrenia? Or like multiple personality disorder? That's what that sounds like. This initial reaction is due to our deeply entrenched assumption that there's only one mind. That I only have one mind.
There's one brain, one me. And we plug this new idea of, okay, multiple sub-personalities. We plug that into the only system that we have.
And we're like, well, wait. Yeah, like a crazy person. Like a crazy person has sub-personalities.
That's what you're saying. But again, what if this assumption is incorrect? And, or perhaps it is correct. But what if believing that about ourselves, that we have this one brain and that's it, and that we aren't split up in parts, but we're just this singular monomind? What if it's making your recovery much harder? And if that doesn't make sense, I'm going to explain.
Here's what I mean. If I hold the belief of monomind and I act out with my porn addiction, I might say something to myself like, and this is what my clients say all the time. This is what I used to say to myself all the time when I was caught up in addiction.
What's wrong with me? Why am I this way? How can I keep doing this to myself? Am I insane? If instead, I hold the belief that there are many parts that make up my psyche, I may ask myself, why is this part of me doing this? What's its reason? If I address an addiction that way, in a way of curiosity, I just might start opening up to the possibility that I'm not insane, and I'm not bad, and I'm not messed up. I've just got a part of me that feels the need for the addiction, and it is acting out in such a way that it has a reason for. And I can get curious as to why that is.
Again, this all may sound strange and even insane itself, but stay with me. I'm going to explain more. Think back.
Okay, in this example, I think it's really going to help paint this picture for you. And I believe once I tell you, I give you this example of addiction, you're going to see how intuitive this is, and how intuitive it is to understand this concept of multi-mind. Okay, not mono-mind, but multi-mind.
There are sub-personalities within you. Think back to a time when you relapsed with porn. What emotions did you experience? What internal dialogues did you participate in? What inner conflicts did you endure? Notice there's already kind of that idea of there are multiple parts of you interacting.
If you're like the rest of us, it probably went something like this. A craving for porn came up. You experienced lust and desire.
One part of you says, oh, you want to go watch that, or what was that video that we didn't see last time, or I probably have like 30 minutes this evening if I get home a little early, or how can I slip this in? And you start planning, right? It starts planning, or it starts craving, it starts desiring. How can we get this? How can we make this happen? I want to go watch porn. Then, almost at the exact same time, another part of you chimes in, and this depends on the individual, but for a lot of people it's this way.
Don't go do that. Don't you remember what happened last time? Or you idiot, stop thinking about all this. What's wrong with you? Just forget about it and move on, right? It's trying to push you out of the addiction cravings.
Stop it, right? It's judging you. It's trying to control you. So, we've got these two parts beginning to fight back and forth.
Then, another part of you, a deeper part, begins to feel a rising sense of anxiety about this inner conflict, much the same way as a small child might feel afraid when mom and dad start to argue. That small child within you feels powerless. It feels unable to stop the fight.
He's scared that he isn't strong enough to forego the temptation to view porn, but he also doesn't like the mounting criticism coming from the other part of you that is saying it's a stupid idea and he shouldn't do it. You feel confusion. You feel hopelessness.
You feel shame. With these two parts arguing for and against watching porn, and then another part feeling ashamed and powerless about all of it, you give in and you go watch porn. And the part that wanted you to watch porn has fulfilled its role.
Once you're done, right, and you've relapsed, it fades into the background and goes away for a time. Then, the other part that wants you to stop watching porn is now battering you with judgment and criticisms. It's using intimidation and shaming tactics to convince you never to let this happen again.
Don't you know what this has done to your family? I can't believe you wasted time on this again. This is the last time you're ever going to let this happen. And it's just beating you and beating you and beating you into a pulp.
And that starts to make you want to go watch porn again, eventually, beating the crap out of yourself. And meanwhile, again, underneath the surface, you feel a sense of dread. And yet again, you gave in.
And that little child inside of you gets into the fetal position. It's defeated. It's discouraged.
All he really wants to do, ultimately, what does that part of you that feels discouraged and defeated, what does it want to do? It wants to be a good person. And it doesn't understand how you keep doing this to yourself over and over and over and over again. Now that I've played the scenario out for you, does this sound like a singular mind engaging in all of this? Or does it sound like an interaction between multiple parts of your mind? Multiple sub-personalities that all have differing goals, differing desires and roles.
If it's one mind, then how can that mind possibly want all of this all at once? Or how can it act in ways directly contrary to what it knows is best for it? And there's cognitive dissonance in all sorts of other ways that this is explained in cognitive or behavioral psychology. And I totally get that. I've studied those things.
I get it. But the powerful thing is when you can step back and witness your mind this way, and pull out these parts, be an observer of them, now you have some kind of say in what's going on. And another one of the most fundamental truths within IFS that's so powerful is this concept of no bad parts.
Okay, so whether the... and I'll tell you more about that in just a moment, but really quick. Whether the truth is that your is one singular personality. I've kind of already said this, but I'm going to just drive it home again.
Whether the truth is that your mind is one singular personality or it is instead made up of multiple sub-personalities is not the point. The truth of that is not the point. The point is what I really want to drive home here is whether processing your thoughts and emotions one way or the other is more effective.
That is the point. What is most effective from a psychological standpoint? That's all I'm interested in. And that is what I've found with IFS and what many people across the world are finding.
IFS is gaining traction at an astounding rate. And IFS, Internal Family Systems, teaches this way of seeing our mind in multiple parts. It's gaining traction at an astounding rate across the globe to help with mental illnesses and addictions.
It is giving people the ability to observe the mind as a system of parts that are taking on different roles. And that has been nothing short of revolutionary when it comes to working through addiction or other mental or emotional challenges for people. Because when you start to do it, it's so intuitive and it gives you this mindfulness perspective and this ability to really work with yourself and dialogue with yourself.
Core to the success of Internal Family Systems, that model, is the understanding that we have no bad parts. Again, which I said a little bit earlier. That's the title of one of Dr. Richard Schwartz's most recent books.
I highly recommend it. It's a beautiful book. It's helped me.
I can't say how much it's helped me. Essentially, this means that every single part of you, from those that are playful or generous to those that are judgmental or even malicious, every part of you, of your mind, play a role that they see as necessary for the benefit of the whole, of the system of parts, you. Right? While parts of you certainly may be misguided or acting in ways that are creating harm or destruction, they are doing their very best to show up how they can to keep you safe, quote-unquote, in the short term.
Fulfill your needs. Prevent further suffering. All in the short term.
They have a hard time seeing long-term, into the future. Like you can, the real true you, you can see in the future. Right? Or your consciousness, you can see into the future.
Okay. But these parts, they're like little kids and many of them do truly believe, according to the IFS framework or the concept, that they are little kids. So when parts of you are healthy, on the other hand, not carrying around burdens or insecurities all the time, they can actually become powerful assets and friends to you.
Parts that harmonize with your pure intentions and deepest desires to bless others and do good in the world. So the approach that we classically take to porn addiction or any addiction is to see the part of us that feeds us cravings and pushes us to act out as, we see it as bad. We see that part of us as bad.
That we need to shun it, ignore it, and ultimately kill it. Get rid of it. Kill it.
I've heard that so many times in addiction meetings. That is the goal most recovering addicts start with. And IFS, Internal Family Systems, shares a different approach for porn addiction recovery.
Instead of seeing this part of you that wants you to go to addiction as bad, see it as a part of you doing its best to help you out. And let me clarify that this doesn't mean you need to give into it, justify it, or placate it. That's not what this means at all.
Acceptance and compassion for a part of you does not mean giving into it. Instead, you listen to it. You seek to understand it.
You get curious about it. You go to the source of the cravings and you ask what it's trying to do for you. Why does it want you to use porn as a means of coping with suffering? What suffering is underneath the surface? What feelings is it trying to numb? What is it afraid might happen if it did not use this protective strategy to guard against suffering you're experiencing under the surface? These are some of the most important questions to ask yourself if you're trying to overcome porn addiction.
If you can get some answers on this, perhaps you can dig down and get curious about what's under the surface. What insecurities are you carrying? There's nothing shameful about having insecurities, by the way. Everybody has them, including you.
Okay. I was just talking to a client about this this past week that he felt that the word insecurity he believed for his whole life up until he began working with me, that the word insecurity, it was shameful. It was something to be hidden.
You don't feel insecurities. You don't pay attention to them. You don't look at them.
You block them out because, especially as a man, you're not allowed to feel weakness. And the more that you deny or you try to hide from them that way, the more power that they have over you. It's the amazing thing.
When we try to move away from emotions and ignore them, they grow and grow and grow in the darkness. They grow power. And when we move toward them, we understand them, we seek to see them deeply and truly, and to love them and bring them compassion, then they can mellow out.
And they can ultimately, in the long run, convert and transform into something helpful. When, as they become unburdened. This is because parts that play protective roles will lead this show all day in order to keep you from feeling those insecurities.
And they're going to play what I call jerk strategies in my program. Judgment, escape, resistance, control. They're going to play these all day in order to keep you from feeling those insecurities.
You're going to judge other people. You're going to try to control situations. You're going to bully yourself into doing things.
You're going to try to escape using flat effect or getting depressed. Or you're going to try to escape using addictions and behaviors and OCD types of behaviors as well. Okay, the list could go on and on and on of all these escape, resistance, judgment, control strategies that parts of our mind use on ourselves in order to keep us from looking at the stuff that they don't want us to see.
They want to keep us safe from, and they're genuinely trying their best to do so. So this is this. Instead of that, you've got to go to them.
You've got to care for them. You got to see these parts of you that are trying to use these protective strategies and come to deeply understand and feel compassion for them. And so ultimately, when a craving for porn comes up, don't run from it.
Don't fight it. Don't give into it. Instead, step back mentally.
Observe this part of you that is feeding you the realize that this part of you is doing its best to help you and let it know that you understand it's showing up for you the best way that it knows how. Again, it sounds strange. You may feel hate or you may feel fear towards this part.
But if you start to take that approach, things start to open up and you can actually get better. As strange as it may sound, let it know that you're grateful for its efforts, that you actually admire it for how hard it's been trying, because it showed up at a time in your life when you were younger, when you really needed an outlet, a release. You needed something to take you away from the pain that you couldn't process as a kid.
And as strange as it may sound, let it know that you're grateful for it, and that if it can give you a little space, you just might be able to find another route to work through the underlying insecurities that you're dealing with. The stress, the suffering, whatever you're going through that day, whatever you're carrying with you. And discover new solutions to handle internal suffering.
Because you can find those new solutions. You probably know what they are, but you can't start to act on that knowledge until you bring acceptance and compassion to these parts of yourself that are trying to protect you using these different jerk strategies, J-E-R-C, and that you start to recognize what's actually going on under the surface, these insecurities you're carrying, that you feel. And if you can practice this approach with porn cravings and challenging emotions each day, look at those challenging emotions and porn cravings as symptoms, and as protective strategies, and what's actually going on under the surface, you can quit porn.
And you can quit porn using this IFS strategy, these basic concepts, as one of the most valuable mental-emotional tools in your recovery tool belt. So thanks for listening, my friend. Give this podcast a rating, and hit the follow and notification buttons.
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But if you want to go further, and you really want to overcome your porn addiction for good, all these different programs out there, they're going to teach you to face and fight porn cravings using CBT techniques, or mindfulness techniques, or internet filters, accountability buddies, praying wave cravings, etc. These methods don't address the root causes of porn addiction. They may help you stop watching porn, but you'll still experience daily cravings and temptations.
True recovery does not feel that way. True recovery does not entail daily ongoing cravings, my friend. You do not need to experience that.
If you want to not only overcome the behavior of porn addiction, but actually lose your desire for it, you must do the intensive work to get down to the root causes of your porn cravings. How? By building a recovery mindset and lifestyle, so that eventually you no longer crave porn. My intensive porn addiction recovery program gives you a step-by-step system to build this recovery mindset and lifestyle.
It's developed through one of the anchors of my program is the daily assessments that I have my clients do. I have multiple different tools that I have them practicing on a daily basis to process through thoughts and emotions, daily challenging emotions that they're experiencing, and cravings that they're experiencing. How can you process through them? How can you get down to the underlying reasons and core problems that you're facing and process through those, work through them? Okay, and then when you fill out those daily assessments, as you're building these mental habits of recovery, all of that information gets passed on to me.
You submit the form each day. I get it as your coach, your porn addiction recovery coach, and I assess and read through all of the things that you're experiencing on a daily basis, so I get to know and understand you deeply and personally. And then when we come together once a week for our weekly one-on-one sessions, you have a coach that has personal experience.
Okay, I was addicted to porn for 10 years, not to mention all the other addictions I suffered for another 10. And you have someone who has professional experience helping men recover across the world and someone who has seen your week at a deep personal level and comes with solutions ready and discussion topics and things for us to look at together to break down and to understand you on a deeper level so that you can work through and overcome your porn addiction. And then of course, I have a structured recovery program.
It has exercises to transform your mindset and lifestyle, and you have a tailored recovery plan that you and I build out together for several months during the beginning of the program. Okay, and when I say several months, this takes time. How many years have you been addicted to porn? If you've been addicted for 20 years, wouldn't it be reasonable to say it takes 20 years to overcome your addiction? It doesn't have to take that long, okay, but it is going to take time to do that.
So you and I build that out for several months, and then you begin practicing and practicing and practicing throughout those several months and beyond, however long it takes for you. That depends on the client, but you will have the personal answers that you need to get rid of porn cravings. You'll know exactly how to handle cravings.
You'll know what are the underlying root causes of them, and you'll be practicing daily tools that are step-by-step. They're clear. I have a system for you.
There is no other system that is designed like the No More Desire program. I can say that with confidence. It's a program that's intensive.
It's personalized. It's structured, and it helps you build a recovery mindset and lifestyle so that you can lose your desire for porn. So if you're ready to get rid of your porn addiction, set up a free 30-minute consultation with me.
I'd love to meet with you, my friend, and chat with you about the program and answer any questions you have. God bless and much love.
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